Ep. 6 - Asking for Your Desires with Stephanie Dickinson

In today’s episode, I’m joined by my good friend Stephanie Dickinson (also a relationship coach), and we’re talking all about asking for our desires from our partners. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and sit down for a heart-to-heart with us.

In this episode, Stephanie & I share our real-life, intimate stories around asking for what we want from our partners.

As we’ve discovered, it’s not easy to ask for what we want. We often build stories around why what we want isn’t possible, or we drop our desires before we get the courage to ask for them.

Here we give you tangible ways to break down the process — how to identify a desire in ourselves and the feelings that come up around the desire, how to approach the desire with a partner, friend, or loved one, and how to be open to others’ desires when we’re on the receiving side of a request.

We also explore masculine/feminine dynamics and how to work with the opposing energies when it comes to asking for a desire.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email (megandlambert@gmail.com), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

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Key Moments:

(2:16 - 6:22) Stephanie opens up about an edgy desire she’s asked for recently, and how it went for her

(6:25 - 8:18) Talking yourself out of your wants as a form of self-rejection

(8:20 - 12:07) The inner work Stephanie does to identify desires in herself

(12:26 - 17:08) Megan’s desire to do the tantra retreat - and how she persistently and gently brought James on board

(17:18 -19:50) Resentment is the smoke on the fire of your desire

(19:52 - 26:32) Confiding in your friends to dig deeper before approaching your partner

(26:36 - 31:59) Being on the receiving end of someone else’s desires and setting boundaries

(32:00 - 38:20) Navigating “charged” sensations in difficult conversations
(38:21 - 41:00) Setting a “context” or framework around conversations with loved ones

(41:02 - 43:54) Sharing our current (secret) desires that we haven’t yet spoken to our partners about