How to Become More Feminine
“How do I become more feminine?”
I hear this question a lot when I am working with clients.
We live in a masculine-dominated world, and many women feel stuck in their masculine energy.
Let’s start with what being more feminine is NOT about:
Looking a certain way - Are long flowy goddess dresses and lacy lingerie not your thing? Great. Contrary to what you may see on Insta, being “feminine” does not mean dressing in any particular way.
Being submissive - when people learn about the basics of mas/fem dynamics, they hear that he is meant to lead and she is meant to surrender. So she needs to act all docile and 1950s subservient? No thanks. It’s time to upgrade that understanding of the polarity teachings (more on that in a future post).
Being sugar, spice, and all things nice - you don’t have to speak softly, act sweetly, or move gently to be more feminine. You can, if that is your innate expression, but the feminine includes more range than that - including ferocity, rage, power, and sharpness.
So, if becoming feminine is not that… what is it?
First, the basics.
We all have BOTH masculine & feminine energy inside of us, that animates at different moments.
Embodying masculine and feminine energy is like playing the piano - you have access to all of the keys, yet you likely have a “home base” somewhere on the keyboard where you feel most at ease playing.
So, while you hopefully can embody both masculine and feminine energy, there is likely a place on the keyboard that feels most familiar or comforting.
(To be an exceptional piano player, though, you must learn the whole keyboard. Same with being an advanced polarity practitioner).
So, how do you know if you’re overplaying the masculine end of the keyboard?
You’ll feel dry, stuck, bored, uninspired, tight.
You’ll be living in your head, caught up in to-do’s, trying to “make things happen”.
You’ll struggle to attract masculine partners and have a hard time finding a man you respect and can truly trust.
You’ll be focused on achievement, goals, and your mission… but may not have much access to your emotions, pleasure, or sensitivity.
Let me just say - I can relate to all of these.
I spent most of my life overworking, over giving, over hustling.
My masculine was on over drive.
I had grown up getting rewarded and recognized for being the best, working hard, and being smart.
I spent years pushing down my feelings, my sensitivity, and my deeper intuition.
My entire life changed when I started learning about and embodying the feminine.
I became more at peace in my body, more relaxed inside, more trusting of the world, more sensual.
It was like the world went from monochrome to full vivid color and my body exploded with aliveness.
I discovered a nectar that so many women are craving.
And now it is my deepest pleasure to create spaces for women to discover their own feminine wisdom.
Because we can access our true feminine nature in community with other women.
As we unravel and let go, a deeper wisdom emerges.
As we open and soften, we sense subtle desires.
As we become more sensitive, we feel more pleasure and aliveness.
I recently summarized a super power of the feminine - magnetism.
Magnetism is her birthright.
Picture a flower drawing in a bee - just by being itself.
That is the feminine.
She radiants with life, color, juiciness… and what she craves is drawn towards her with grace and ease.
What does feminine magnetism look like? It looks like…
You know that you, just being you, are a powerfully attractive force of nature.
You trust your beauty, radiance, and desirability - and feel safe enough to be seen.
What you want comes to you, effortlessly and gracefully.
You receive graciously, with a soft open body, letting life touch you fully.
You surf the waves of nature’s cycles, gathering the wisdom in both the ups & the downs.
You have high standards and strong boundaries, so what enters your space feels exquisite.
You open to your deepest longings and cravings, knowing that is what sends out the call.
You unguard your heart and reveal your emotions in real-time, an honest response.
You’re connected to your pussy, nourished by pleasure, and lit from within.
You’re deeply rooted in who you are - a powerful, feminine, erotic, and magnetic woman.
As you read these 10 qualities, notice - which ones feel most true for you right now?
Which ones do you want to grow into?
Because while these are your feminine birthright, it does take cultivation to have consistent access to them.
These 10 qualities are the focus of [Magnetic] - my Bali women’s retreat on July 9-13th….
Over 5 days in the lush Bali jungle, women will discover the truth of these qualities as they embody true feminine leadership. [Learn more here].
Last thing I want to leave you with…
Becoming feminine is never something to add on.
Or a box to fit in.
Or a way to be.
No.
Becoming feminine is…
An unraveling of conditioning that says its not safe to be feminine.
A reclaiming of your feminine power.
A remembering of who you are.
With love,
Megan